Elder Financial Abuse: What It Is, How to Spot It, and What You Need to Do to Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones

Written by WithU Insights Team | July 24, 2025

Older adults, aged 60 and above, are both one of the fastest-growing demographics in the United States and uniquely vulnerable to many kinds of abuse, including financial abuse and exploitation. According to a 2023 report from the AARP, elder Americans lose an estimated $28.3 billion annually to financial exploitation. 

What Is Elder Financial Abuse and Exploitation? 

First things first: let’s quickly talk about the difference between financial abuse and financial fraud, according to the U.S. Department of Justice’s Elder Justice Initiative (EJI). Both are categorized as financial exploitation, but they’re separated by who the perpetrator is. Financial abuse is committed by someone the victim knows; financial fraud is committed by a stranger. Both can have devastating consequences, but we’re going to focus on the first type.  

Elder financial abuse is when someone illegally or improperly takes and/or misuses the money, property or other assets of someone aged 60 or older, usually for their own use or benefit. According to Fidelity Investments, around “90% of financial exploitation is carried out by people close to the victim,” and that more personal relationship really makes it a more insidious form than straight-out fraud. 

What Are Types of Elder Financial Abuse? 

The EJI outlines several forms of this abuse: 

  • Power of attorney abuse – The person named to make decisions on money matters when you no longer can then abuses that power to take your assets 
  • Using your credit or debit card – An acquaintance, friend, or family member takes your credit or debit card and uses it without your permission 
  • A trusted professional steals from you – Often a financial adviser or lawyer who takes money from your account or manipulates you into giving them power of attorney to get your assets  
  • Extortion – An acquaintance, friend, family member, or someone else you know threatens you into giving them gifts, money, or other assets 
  • Forgery – An acquaintance, friend, family member, or someone else you know forges your signature on a check or other legal document 
  • Repurposing money meant for bills or other care costs – Finances set aside for covering your care and costs of living are instead siphoned away by someone you know to use for themselves 
  • Nursing home theft – For those in assisted living and residential care facilities, an employee either directly steals your cash or personal effects or takes money from your account or manipulates you into giving them power of attorney 
  • Acting as your spokesperson – Similar to extortion, someone you know takes you to a bank, a car dealership, or other business and scares you into letting them speak for you to access your assets 
  • Sudden new friends – Someone presents themselves as a new acquaintance, maybe offers to help, but gradually gets more involved in your life and finances and takes over control 

These are all separate from financial fraud, which includes the more stereotypical exploitation like: 

  • Romance scams 
  • Business and government imposter scams 
  • Sweepstakes and lottery scams 
  • Technical support scams 
  • Pretend-family-member scams 
  • Investment scams 
  • Phishing scams 

 

 

Why Is Elder Financial Abuse Such a Big Issue? And What Are the Risk Factors? 

Remember that statistic we mentioned at the beginning from the AARP? About how older adults are exploited out of $28.3 billion a year? That same report says that 72% of that total is the result of abuse by a friend, family member, or caregiver. Even worse, 87.5% of victims of elder financial abuse never report it to authorities.  

There are several reasons why older adults are popular targets for this form of exploitation, including physical health complications, physical disabilities, mental health impairments and worsening cognitive abilities, financial or care dependency, or social isolation. Most abuse takes place either at home, via adult children, or in assisted living or residential care facilities, via staff or employees. 

What Are Signs of Elder Financial Abuse? 

Spotting financial abuse like this can be tricky, especially if the victim is dealing with dementia or other cognitive impairments. Depending on whether it is you who are the potential target or you’re looking into this on behalf of a loved one, you should look for: 

  • Abrupt changes to bank accounts or banking practices, like adding new people to their accounts or large, inexplicable withdrawals 
  • Unpaid or past-due bills despite the fact that there should be adequate finances for it 
  • Inadequate care or, alternatively, insisting on the inclusion of unnecessary services 
  • A rise in worry or stress, especially about money 
  • Suddenly running out of money at the end of the month when they never have before 
  • New “friends” ingratiating themselves or previously distant or uninvolved family members suddenly showing up and making claims 

 

How Can You Prevent Elder Financial Abuse? 

Clear communication and pre-planning can help prevent elder financial abuse before it happens. At WithU Loans, we suggest discussing finances with your loved ones early and often. Have multiple trusted people help monitor accounts and keep the dialogue open. This can make it easier to spot unusual financial activity. And be very deliberate about who you appoint as your power of attorney. Make this decision while you’re still of clear and sound mind and consider naming two people for accountability. Other safe measures include: 

Keep your personal information safe

Regularly change your passwords to strong, unique ones, and use a password manager if you need help tracking all of them. Shred sensitive documents. And only share this information with trusted loved ones. 

 

Stay hands-on with caregivers  

Run background checks before hiring anyone or bringing them into your lives and then get to know them and stay in consistent contact. 

 

Keep an eye out for isolating tactics 

Abusers of any type will attempt to cut their victim off from family, friends, or other support networks who might attempt to interfere with the abuse.  

 

How Do You Report Elder Financial Abuse? And Can You Recover? 

If you or your loved one do become a victim of elder financial abuse or suspected financial abuse, the first thing you need to do is report it. Guilt, shame, and embarrassment often keep victims from coming forward about what happened to them, but it’s important to bring these types of crimes to light. It will not only be key to facilitating any potential recovery of your assets, but also, talking openly about this issue can help reduce the stigma and support others in coming forward. 

The first thing to do is to report what happened to a couple of different organizations: 

  • Adult Protective Services (APS) – 1-833-401-0832 – a government agency administered by local or state health departments 
  • National Elder Fraud Hotline – 1-822-372-8311 – a hotline managed by the U.S. Department of Justice through the Office of Victims of Crime 

You can also contact the local sheriff, police, and/or district attorneys to file a report and seek prosecution. You’re likely to be asked specific information like the victim’s known medical conditions or disabilities, the date and location of any incidents, the names of anyone involved, a description of the financial abuse and any other suspected abuse, and any urgent concerns or risks to safety. 

While reporting is the first step toward recovery, the rest of the process is often much longer. If you’re looking for the return of stolen assets, it’s generally a civil matter, and the legal procedures vary state by state. Engaging with a local advocate can help you navigate the proceedings.  

It’s also important to consider how this might have shaken mental and emotional health, especially feelings of mistrust or humiliation. Remember that you are not alone; this is a wide-scale problem that affects thousands of people every year. Reach out to local support groups and therapy resources to help you on your path to healing.